Regret over use of time
Regret over focus
Regret over choice of acquaintances/friends
Regret over personal characteristics/character traits
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The loved ones of inmates are keenly aware that their incarcerated family member will have a tough time finding a decently paying job. How does one live the American Dream making minimum wage… or worse… facing ongoing unemployment. In a rough economy that has already forced many who have no record out of work, the ex-convict faces overwhelming challenges. And, the family of that ex-convict feels for them and often hurts with them through the low wage job, or the unemployment of a father, mother, sister or brother. The pressure to achieve that American ideal life places stress on the whole family, and may prove a huge temptation to the former inmate who is trying to get back on his/her feet.
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My name is Jessica and I know your probably saying why is she emailing me. I was reading a article online that you had written about extended family visits at the prisons...
My husband is incarcerated for almost 2 years now and has been granted a visit with our daughter and myself for 24 hours. The visit starts tomorrow and I'm so nervous and a little scared. I keep going back and forth about going.
My daughter is 3 and knows she is having a sleep over with her daddy and says she wants to go and is excited but I'm just leery. She is very shy, quiet, and timid and I also am as well.
I have my in laws who are super protective not wanting me to go but will support my decision and as for my parents and friends well they all walked out on me because I decided to stand by my husband thru his incarceration.
Is there any even if its a little bit of advice? I understand if you don't write back or feel uncomfortable. I'm only reaching out be a use I just know nothing about any of this and the process and I'm just a nervous wreck..
From Renee Patterson Writes on April 11:Jess D
I am so sorry. I am just now seeing your email. I truly apologize because I would have surely been there for you. If you still need to vent, talk or get some advise, please email my back. I'm here for you if you still need me.
From Jess D. on April 11:Renee Patterson WritesBest Regards,Renee Patterson
Thank you so much for writing back!! We went to the extended family visit. I decided it was best for my daughter my husband and myself.
How silly it was for me to even be nervous or almost backing out and not even going. My husband made me so proud!! He made this 24 hour visit about being a father and doing all the things he needs to as a father.
He just was amazing and it just made me see first hand why we have stuck together and just what a amazing man he has grown into and is truly ready to just take care of his duties as a father husband and our support.
It was the best 24 hours I have had in 2 years and it just gave us so much confidence in our relationship and a lot of peace which we both needed. Ahh I'm glad things are taking a turn for the best finally. Thanks so much for taking the time to write be back it means a lot!
JessicaFrom Renee Patterson Writes on April 11:
You are so welcome. I'm so glad things went well for you.
Would you mind if I posted these two emails you sent me on my blog? I would really love to share your story with my audience?From Jessica D. on April 11:
I would be so honored if you did. This experience takes so much support and we all need to help each other thru this. Its the only way. Thank you so so much.
Please stay in contact with me. I just loved all your articles. They helped me make my decision and I'm so happy I did it. It helped our whole family and gave so much peace.
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"I don't want to be locked up in a prison overnight."
"Do I really want to take my kids to a prison to be locked up for that long?"
"I can't imagine going that long without a drink or a cigarette." (This was me!)